1290 wrote:this forum cant afford to lose 'talent'...
'talent' is only worth so much grief. Knowing a lot, contributing a lot, doesn't mean you can be an asshole a lot too. Helping one person while berating and insulting two others is not a winning formula.
It's a problem that effects all forums to some extent. More often than you'd like people who contribute more than others think it gives them the right to tote it over other people. They expect complaints about them to be dismissed, and anyone they complain about to be censured or banned immediately. They sling as much as they get then play the victim over the whole incident.
Whether you started an argument, continue in, rise to the bait or only responded doesn't matter. Pick whatever quip you like... "It takes two to tango", "If you're not part of the solution you're part of the problem".... When you're involved in 10 pointless arguments a week derailing every topic you take part in you're definitely part of the problem.
The fact that we're discussing this in an genuine, curious enquiry about casting bullets is proof of this.
The vast majority of members have no dramas here at all. Differences of opinion are discussed or disputed calmly without name calling or ill feelings. A few can't seem to let things drop though and pointless arguments follow them around because of it. A few people have consistently been involved in pointless and damaging arguments here for an extended period of time and enough is enough. "If you're not part of the solution you're part of the problem". Now they're gone.
The later few need to accept that people won't always agree with then and that they don't get the last word on all things. That's how the rest of us get by peacefully and stress free.
You may have caught the reason 'goodbye' topic before it was removed which was nothing but a swearing filled page of abuse directed at half a dozen other members the OP had issue with. There is no excuse for this kind of thing.
We try not to step in too much because we don't want to be dictating conversations or taking sides. We accept people have different points of view and rely on members to do the same. I'm sure you'll have observed 95% of members here have never said a harsh word to another member. There is no reason the other 5% couldn't be the same.
We take no pleasure in banning people but eventually enough is enough. A few have gone, if others 'rise' to take their place they'll go too.
Perhaps we allow things to go on to long and should be taking action sooner. Something for the future...
(This topic comes to mind:
How to have a disagreement.)