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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Stix » 15 Apr 2019, 8:02 pm

Hey babe...wana see me shoot a hand load outa my hard blue varmint barrel... 8-)


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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Die Judicii » 15 Apr 2019, 10:59 pm

Pardon ???? :wtf:

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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by wanneroo » 16 Apr 2019, 12:15 am

brett1868 wrote:I married a princess of the former Soviet Union, her stepfather was a soldier and served in Afghanistan. Any firearm that isn't an AK47 is inferior in her opinion so I don't get much grief about the guns or teaching our son to shoot. In fact she's quite supportive of my sport and always proud when he boys do well in competition. I set the bar with her early in our relationship when she raised concerns about the fast cars, bikes, guns and diving. I informed her in no uncertain terms that if she forced me to choose between her or the cars/bikes/guns then she'd have to open her own wine bottles :) If they love you then they'll support you even if they don't agree with you.


Well you set the frame in place early. A lot of these dudes the mistake they make is not doing that but what they don't realize is that it becomes death by a thousand cuts. These guys just have to have a woman in their house so often they will compromise to the point the woman is really running the show and then these are the guys you see having to ask permission for the most basic of things. But what I have seen is women will take advantage of men they can control but they hate them for it. Women really want men to tell them this is the way it is and that's that. I think a lot of women from eastern Europe, Russia and Ukraine probably have a better understanding of traditional roles.
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Stix » 16 Apr 2019, 9:27 am

Die Judicii wrote:Pardon ???? :wtf:

Cheap shot.


Cheap shot...at what...? :unknown:
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by bigfellascott » 16 Apr 2019, 9:32 am

Gamerancher wrote:Blokes that tippy toe around stuff like this just need to grow a set!
If you have to appologise to your other half for everything you want to do in your life, be it shooting ,fishing, whatever, you are with the wrong person.


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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Urastus » 16 Apr 2019, 9:35 pm

Gamerancher wrote:Blokes that tippy toe around stuff like this just need to grow a set!
If you have to appologise to your other half for everything you want to do in your life, be it shooting ,fishing, whatever, you are with the wrong person.


I kind of agree with gamerancher. You don't have to justify anything. You have the right to enjoy your passion while it legal, safe, and isn't harming others. I wouldn't volunteer anything - if she asks what you're up to when you are going off shooting, then just say "shooting". No explanation or justification - unless she asks more questions, then answer straight, and not from the back foot. You're an equal and an individual with your own interests and desires. Try not to be angry or defensive, just assertive, matter of fact. Be like Spock
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by grandadbushy » 16 Apr 2019, 9:55 pm

I to like to bragg about how tough i'd be like in saying to the ladies ''I'm just going shooting and thats it '' but if the truth was known when we all climbed into bed that night with those lovely girls of ours and the aroma of roses woffts over and the wonderful smell of her with your favorate perfume and ready to play ''BUT THEN'' She whispers the guns or me i bet every last one of us would at that moment throw all our guns down the well ''BBut slit our wrists the next morning :thumbsup: :( ;) :) :D :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :drinks: :violin:
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by wanneroo » 17 Apr 2019, 12:45 am

grandadbushy wrote:I to like to bragg about how tough i'd be like in saying to the ladies ''I'm just going shooting and thats it '' but if the truth was known when we all climbed into bed that night with those lovely girls of ours and the aroma of roses woffts over and the wonderful smell of her with your favorate perfume and ready to play ''BUT THEN'' She whispers the guns or me i bet every last one of us would at that moment throw all our guns down the well ''BBut slit our wrists the next morning :thumbsup: :( ;) :) :D :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :drinks: :violin:


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Post by TassieTiger » 17 Apr 2019, 3:12 am

grandadbushy wrote:I to like to bragg about how tough i'd be like in saying to the ladies ''I'm just going shooting and thats it '' but if the truth was known when we all climbed into bed that night with those lovely girls of ours and the aroma of roses woffts over and the wonderful smell of her with your favorate perfume and ready to play ''BUT THEN'' She whispers the guns or me i bet every last one of us would at that moment throw all our guns down the well ''BBut slit our wrists the next morning :thumbsup: :( ;) :) :D :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :drinks: :violin:


Nope. Bulldust. Way over the line....but geeeeeeeeez they are soft and cuddly in the morning eh?
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by womble » 17 Apr 2019, 5:12 am

On the first date mention that you have an identical twin brother. Let’s call him Bill. Now that’s a good conversation starter anyway so no loss so far. You’re still in the game.
If you keep seeing her over time you just say that Bill has keys to your place. Obviously you trust him 100% because he’s your twin.
He’s into target shooting. Actually, f*** it, say he’s competing in the olympics. Trains on the weekends and stores stuff at your place.
Yeah so don’t worry if Bill drops by this weekend.
Oh yeah and we wear the same clothes because we’re identical twins, so obviously.

And you don’t really want a woman’s that’s too bright anyway. That’s a headache you don’t need.
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Kel » 17 Apr 2019, 6:35 am

To the OP I would say just be open & honest with your lady friends, you like shooting and if they are not tolerant of your interest then you probably need better lady friends. Having to hide stuff from people who mean something to you isn't a great idea.

For what its worth my inner west girlfriend is the one who suggested that I get back into shooting.She is familiar with guns and happens to be a good shot. As we spent some time living in Sydney's inner west we have a bunch of friends from that area. These days we live on a farm - typically people are very interested in the day to day country living experience and I make sure that they get a balanced exposure to it by talking about guns and pest control as well as cute farm animals and growing our own food. During the recent election I also made sure they knew we were voting SFF and why. I see our current situation as a great way to keep it real for people we know who live in the city.

So I guess the point of that little story is the same as my initial point, if friends are intolerant of your point of view/interests then they are probably not really quality friends to begin with.
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Bruiser64 » 17 Apr 2019, 8:37 am

When my wife and I got together there was a gun cabinet downstairs and I made no secret of the fact I like shooting. I also like boating, fishing, motorcycles, golf and building stuff in my shed. My wife accepts I enjoy shooting, but isn’t in love with the idea. The thing is she grew up on a farm. Her brother is a farmer and he and I go shooting when I visit the farm. My view is I am her husband not her concubine. I respect her right to enjoy her hobbies. She respects my right to enjoy mine. Having said that it’s important we also enjoy doing things together. Balance is the important thing.
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Post by Noisydad » 17 Apr 2019, 6:37 pm

wanneroo wrote:
grandadbushy wrote:I to like to bragg about how tough i'd be like in saying to the ladies ''I'm just going shooting and thats it '' but if the truth was known when we all climbed into bed that night with those lovely girls of ours and the aroma of roses woffts over and the wonderful smell of her with your favorate perfume and ready to play ''BUT THEN'' She whispers the guns or me i bet every last one of us would at that moment throw all our guns down the well ''BBut slit our wrists the next morning :thumbsup: :( ;) :) :D :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :drinks: :violin:


For dudes afflicted with Oneitus and the scarcity mindset, yes I can believe that.

I don't have that problem because as I learned, there is always another.

As I've found in the last ten years, shockingly easy to find too! ;)
There's still a few of Wile. E Coyote's ideas that I haven't tried yet.
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Post by TassieTiger » 17 Apr 2019, 6:53 pm

womble wrote:On the first date mention that you have an identical twin brother. Let’s call him Bill. Now that’s a good conversation starter anyway so no loss so far. You’re still in the game.
If you keep seeing her over time you just say that Bill has keys to your place. Obviously you trust him 100% because he’s your twin.
He’s into target shooting. Actually, f*** it, say he’s competing in the olympics. Trains on the weekends and stores stuff at your place.
Yeah so don’t worry if Bill drops by this weekend.
Oh yeah and we wear the same clothes because we’re identical twins, so obviously.

And you don’t really want a woman’s that’s too bright anyway. That’s a headache you don’t need.


Gold!!!! I need Bill for...other things lol
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by brett1868 » 17 Apr 2019, 10:21 pm

This might get me in trouble....Women are like dog turds, the older they get the easier they are to pick up :)
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Noisydad » 17 Apr 2019, 11:03 pm

brett1868 wrote:This might get me in trouble....Women are like dog turds, the older they get the easier they are to pick up :)

But...but...no... they...romance...companionsh...(deep sigh) ok, yes it's true.
There's still a few of Wile. E Coyote's ideas that I haven't tried yet.
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Post by Urastus » 17 Apr 2019, 11:53 pm

grandadbushy wrote:I to like to bragg about how tough i'd be like in saying to the ladies ''I'm just going shooting and thats it '' but if the truth was known when we all climbed into bed that night with those lovely girls of ours and the aroma of roses woffts over and the wonderful smell of her with your favorate perfume and ready to play ''BUT THEN'' She whispers the guns or me i bet every last one of us would at that moment throw all our guns down the well ''BBut slit our wrists the next morning :thumbsup: :( ;) :) :D :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :drinks: :violin:


Nup. I'd never fall for that - an unnecessary ultimatum. I would consider that her choice, as it is.
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Post by bigpete » 18 Apr 2019, 10:07 pm

Noisydad wrote:
brett1868 wrote:This might get me in trouble....Women are like dog turds, the older they get the easier they are to pick up :)

But...but...no... they...romance...companionsh...(deep sigh) ok, yes it's true.

What about younger ones lol
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