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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Col » 13 Apr 2019, 4:01 pm

FWIW I took my wife plinking at a mates rubbish tip, you bottles cans etc, with a couple of 22s. She reckoned "this is boring" until we gave her a go and next thing you know "more bullets please". Loved plinking and shooting cabs etc. Now my 2 daughters are right into shooting, one even captained shooting team at school and all good shots. Mum is a bloody good shot, especially if a snake is in the chook house or fox around the chooks.

So I reckon you have nothing to lose if you take her plinking with the old 22. Never know she may like it, get her licence and then you can have more guns at home :).

My missus has stuck around for nearly 30 years so far so worth a try. She may be a keeper.

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Post by on_one_wheel » 13 Apr 2019, 4:33 pm

Noisydad wrote:Tell you’re taking her on a mystery date and head straight to the range.


This one for the win.

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Post by womble » 13 Apr 2019, 4:53 pm

JSS wrote:Lay all your guns out on the bed, then get naked, cover yourself head to toe with gun oil and call out "Honey i'm ready!!" If she freaks out in any way then there must be something wrong with her. :lol: :lol: :drinks: :drinks:


This gets my vote.
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by wanneroo » 13 Apr 2019, 11:50 pm

The way I look at all of this is what's your age and what's your end goal.

I believe once you are past a certain age where you are not looking for a woman to have children with there is no point in bringing them into your house, signing legal documents for marriage where they have a stake in your property and assets or getting them otherwise overly involved in what you are doing. If you exclude marriage I still think you never let them live in your house.

I make it very clear I am into guns right off the get go. I don't believe in this stuff of trying to convince them or whatever. If they don't get it from the get go, bye.
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by TassieTiger » 14 Apr 2019, 12:47 am

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Post by Sergeant Hartman » 14 Apr 2019, 7:08 am

Lol

If she us a one night or one week stance then sure don't bother explaining... but once she gets serious, do so... then she will either freakout and demean toy get rid of the guns.... in that case you have to decide if the root is worth losing your guns.....or she might be fine or even like it.... in the last case even if you are 50/50 on her keep her.
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by straightshooter » 14 Apr 2019, 7:31 am

KoalaGrundle wrote:Okay ran out of space in the subject there.. meant to end with 'lady friends'.

I'm not in a mad hurry to tell any and all ladies about my hobby since some people are pretty irrational about it. And that goes for both sexes.

However after a few weeks they all start wondering why I'm disappearing all day and start thinking there's another woman! Should be quite complimented that they think I have that much energy... :thumbsup:

Any tips or things to avoid? I was thinking maybe get one of those Groupon vouchers for a clays/rimfire "come and try" day, see if they balk at it or if they're keen and go from there


The sooner you "come out" the better, as in it is just one of the normal activities a bloke engages in.
I don't mean that as a pickup line but as any relationship develops you don't want to feed any feelings that there are more deep dark secrets needing to be uncovered.
Furthermore, why waste time with any person that may be intolerant of any of your interests or pursuits assuming of course your post is not in reference to short term, no strings attached, pleasurable activities.
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by TassieTiger » 14 Apr 2019, 9:34 am

Anthony Bourdain has (had) some style - said he takes his prospective to a restaurant where they serve oysters and other gross sticky, bitter food - if she swallows everything gross he can order, he’s in for a good night lol.
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Post by Austwave » 14 Apr 2019, 4:17 pm

:thumbsdown: Mine just lost her s**t at me and she enlisted the kid as well, so I am in ****** ditch cant afford to lose half a house at this point.
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Post by tom604 » 14 Apr 2019, 5:07 pm

TassieTiger wrote:Anthony Bourdain has (had) some style - said he takes his prospective to a restaurant where they serve oysters and other gross sticky, bitter food - if she swallows everything gross he can order, he’s in for a good night lol.



yeah,but they still didn't want to hang with him :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :violin: :violin:
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by bigpete » 14 Apr 2019, 5:59 pm

JSS wrote:
bigpete wrote:Geez,I've got the problem the other way !


Then you really have no problem at all ya lucky bugger! My Mrs isn't a huge fan of them but she understands it's something i'm into so she accepts it. Just like i accept that she loves to play golf (the most retarded and stupidest game ever invented). i even go with her sometimes, i just drive the cart and drink beer :D

Hmmm,I don't know about that. Not my missus...
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Post by RoginaJack » 14 Apr 2019, 8:34 pm

bigpete wrote:Geez,I've got the problem the other way !


Swap ya? 8-)
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Post by wanneroo » 15 Apr 2019, 1:11 am

Austwave wrote: Inner west vegetarian Buddhist yoga teacher


More red flags there than a Chinese Communist parade.

I'm not sure why dudes hook up with these chicks and think it's all going to work out well.

You say you can't afford it but there are some things worth paying for to get away from.
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Die Judicii » 15 Apr 2019, 7:56 am

I don't have any of the aforementioned problems cos my woman loves guns,, and is a pretty good shot.

But then there is the OTHER problem which none of you have broached,,,,,,,,,,,,,
A good mate of mine who is the typical hunter/shooter, and bought a property for just that purpose,,, got married
and one day offered the wife a challenge at an impromptu target shoot in the front paddock.

She had never till that moment fired a rifle or been hunting.

Shortly thereafter to my mates surprise, showed that she was a damm good shot,,,,,,,,,,,,,, and better than he was himself. :oops: :oops:
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by bigpete » 15 Apr 2019, 11:06 am

I actually don't find that a problem. My mate is proving herself to be quite a capable shot,and I couldn't be happier
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Post by Member-Deleted » 15 Apr 2019, 11:31 am

There could be two sides to this question (1) if you tell her you may regret it or (2) if you don't tell her you still may regret it the reason i say that is i got my mrs and showed her how to shoot and one day (when i drank) me and a mate were sitting on the veranda plinking at a crow up in a tree about 250 yds away after a couple of stubbies and half box of ammo the crow was still there he knew something we didn't but it done him no good so then i had bought my mrs a 410 shottie for snakes so out she comes with the 410 (Let me have a shot) me and the mate looked at each other had a smile and i said ok long way for a 410
then bang that bloody crow dropped out of that tree our jaws hit the floor and the mrs all she could say was ''there you go done'' we went down to the crow and one bloody one pellet just one bloody pellet hit it right up the side of the head how unlucky wasthat crow the spread of the 410 should have been 2mtrs or more so now when we start mentioning our good shots she always brings up ''Remember that crow you said i wouldn't hit and laughed at me'' i said maybe i shouldn't have taught you to shoot and she said maybe i would have got someone else that would have taught me then laughed so mate you just gotta decide which of the two ways you want to be humilliated with either one will work trust me :thumbsup: :) :D :drinks:
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Post by Sawyers » 15 Apr 2019, 12:25 pm

I bought my Mrs a gun, now shes part of the club
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Post by brett1868 » 15 Apr 2019, 3:02 pm

I married a princess of the former Soviet Union, her stepfather was a soldier and served in Afghanistan. Any firearm that isn't an AK47 is inferior in her opinion so I don't get much grief about the guns or teaching our son to shoot. In fact she's quite supportive of my sport and always proud when he boys do well in competition. I set the bar with her early in our relationship when she raised concerns about the fast cars, bikes, guns and diving. I informed her in no uncertain terms that if she forced me to choose between her or the cars/bikes/guns then she'd have to open her own wine bottles :) If they love you then they'll support you even if they don't agree with you.
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Stix » 15 Apr 2019, 8:02 pm

Hey babe...wana see me shoot a hand load outa my hard blue varmint barrel... 8-)


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Post by Die Judicii » 15 Apr 2019, 10:59 pm

Pardon ???? :wtf:

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Post by wanneroo » 16 Apr 2019, 12:15 am

brett1868 wrote:I married a princess of the former Soviet Union, her stepfather was a soldier and served in Afghanistan. Any firearm that isn't an AK47 is inferior in her opinion so I don't get much grief about the guns or teaching our son to shoot. In fact she's quite supportive of my sport and always proud when he boys do well in competition. I set the bar with her early in our relationship when she raised concerns about the fast cars, bikes, guns and diving. I informed her in no uncertain terms that if she forced me to choose between her or the cars/bikes/guns then she'd have to open her own wine bottles :) If they love you then they'll support you even if they don't agree with you.


Well you set the frame in place early. A lot of these dudes the mistake they make is not doing that but what they don't realize is that it becomes death by a thousand cuts. These guys just have to have a woman in their house so often they will compromise to the point the woman is really running the show and then these are the guys you see having to ask permission for the most basic of things. But what I have seen is women will take advantage of men they can control but they hate them for it. Women really want men to tell them this is the way it is and that's that. I think a lot of women from eastern Europe, Russia and Ukraine probably have a better understanding of traditional roles.
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Re: How do you broach the guns topic to prospective/current

Post by Stix » 16 Apr 2019, 9:27 am

Die Judicii wrote:Pardon ???? :wtf:

Cheap shot.


Cheap shot...at what...? :unknown:
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Post by bigfellascott » 16 Apr 2019, 9:32 am

Gamerancher wrote:Blokes that tippy toe around stuff like this just need to grow a set!
If you have to appologise to your other half for everything you want to do in your life, be it shooting ,fishing, whatever, you are with the wrong person.


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Post by Urastus » 16 Apr 2019, 9:35 pm

Gamerancher wrote:Blokes that tippy toe around stuff like this just need to grow a set!
If you have to appologise to your other half for everything you want to do in your life, be it shooting ,fishing, whatever, you are with the wrong person.


I kind of agree with gamerancher. You don't have to justify anything. You have the right to enjoy your passion while it legal, safe, and isn't harming others. I wouldn't volunteer anything - if she asks what you're up to when you are going off shooting, then just say "shooting". No explanation or justification - unless she asks more questions, then answer straight, and not from the back foot. You're an equal and an individual with your own interests and desires. Try not to be angry or defensive, just assertive, matter of fact. Be like Spock
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Post by Member-Deleted » 16 Apr 2019, 9:55 pm

I to like to bragg about how tough i'd be like in saying to the ladies ''I'm just going shooting and thats it '' but if the truth was known when we all climbed into bed that night with those lovely girls of ours and the aroma of roses woffts over and the wonderful smell of her with your favorate perfume and ready to play ''BUT THEN'' She whispers the guns or me i bet every last one of us would at that moment throw all our guns down the well ''BBut slit our wrists the next morning :thumbsup: :( ;) :) :D :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :drinks: :violin:
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Post by wanneroo » 17 Apr 2019, 12:45 am

I to like to bragg about how tough i'd be like in saying to the ladies ''I'm just going shooting and thats it '' but if the truth was known when we all climbed into bed that night with those lovely girls of ours and the aroma of roses woffts over and the wonderful smell of her with your favorate perfume and ready to play ''BUT THEN'' She whispers the guns or me i bet every last one of us would at that moment throw all our guns down the well ''BBut slit our wrists the next morning :thumbsup: :( ;) :) :D :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :drinks: :violin:


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Post by TassieTiger » 17 Apr 2019, 3:12 am

I to like to bragg about how tough i'd be like in saying to the ladies ''I'm just going shooting and thats it '' but if the truth was known when we all climbed into bed that night with those lovely girls of ours and the aroma of roses woffts over and the wonderful smell of her with your favorate perfume and ready to play ''BUT THEN'' She whispers the guns or me i bet every last one of us would at that moment throw all our guns down the well ''BBut slit our wrists the next morning :thumbsup: :( ;) :) :D :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :drinks: :violin:


Nope. Bulldust. Way over the line....but geeeeeeeeez they are soft and cuddly in the morning eh?
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Post by womble » 17 Apr 2019, 5:12 am

On the first date mention that you have an identical twin brother. Let’s call him Bill. Now that’s a good conversation starter anyway so no loss so far. You’re still in the game.
If you keep seeing her over time you just say that Bill has keys to your place. Obviously you trust him 100% because he’s your twin.
He’s into target shooting. Actually, f*** it, say he’s competing in the olympics. Trains on the weekends and stores stuff at your place.
Yeah so don’t worry if Bill drops by this weekend.
Oh yeah and we wear the same clothes because we’re identical twins, so obviously.

And you don’t really want a woman’s that’s too bright anyway. That’s a headache you don’t need.
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Post by Kel » 17 Apr 2019, 6:35 am

To the OP I would say just be open & honest with your lady friends, you like shooting and if they are not tolerant of your interest then you probably need better lady friends. Having to hide stuff from people who mean something to you isn't a great idea.

For what its worth my inner west girlfriend is the one who suggested that I get back into shooting.She is familiar with guns and happens to be a good shot. As we spent some time living in Sydney's inner west we have a bunch of friends from that area. These days we live on a farm - typically people are very interested in the day to day country living experience and I make sure that they get a balanced exposure to it by talking about guns and pest control as well as cute farm animals and growing our own food. During the recent election I also made sure they knew we were voting SFF and why. I see our current situation as a great way to keep it real for people we know who live in the city.

So I guess the point of that little story is the same as my initial point, if friends are intolerant of your point of view/interests then they are probably not really quality friends to begin with.
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Post by Bruiser64 » 17 Apr 2019, 8:37 am

When my wife and I got together there was a gun cabinet downstairs and I made no secret of the fact I like shooting. I also like boating, fishing, motorcycles, golf and building stuff in my shed. My wife accepts I enjoy shooting, but isn’t in love with the idea. The thing is she grew up on a farm. Her brother is a farmer and he and I go shooting when I visit the farm. My view is I am her husband not her concubine. I respect her right to enjoy her hobbies. She respects my right to enjoy mine. Having said that it’s important we also enjoy doing things together. Balance is the important thing.
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